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“I feel a little less alone when I read the Reformed Journal.” 

Comments like this are incredibly gratifying to me. Or when one of our readers (you?) might say “Sometimes when I’m despairing about our world, the Reformed Journal renews my hope.”

And who really knows, but it looks like we’ll need this even more in the coming years.

Unique is a unique and overused word. Still, comments like those above tell me that something good and important is going on here. Something that people are apparently not finding elsewhere. Voices, ideas, inspiration that resonate with them, that bless them.

We could call that community. 

It’s one of our biggest goals for the Reformed Journal, that in our world, with its well-documented loneliness epidemic, people find connection here. In a time when Christianity and the North American church are so often disappointing, embarrassing, and scandalous, people find something else here. And this connection brings us (you, too?) some hope and beauty, some courage and insight.

Sometimes our critics call us an echo chamber, where you only hear what you like. Your own opinions are echoed back to you. Maybe so. Or maybe they’re just vexed that their views aren’t found here. As I’ve said many times, the Reformed Journal never intended to be a clearing house for all views or hold some illusory, neutral perspective.

A community is not an echo chamber. A community gives you the energy to come out of your echo chamber or silo or isolation, or whatever image you prefer. Don’t underestimate the power of being with or talking to people who support you, encourage you, who share similar commitments and values. We all need that. We don’t need to apologize for being a community together. 

A couple days ago here on the blog, Roger Nelson shared David French’s concerns about the weakness and ineffectiveness of “monocultures.” I hear that, and agree. But first of all, I don’t really believe that RJ readers are a thorough monoculture. And secondly, I believe there is a place for the courage and solace that comes from discovering solidarity with others.

“Echo Chamber” by Erik Johansson
on the Nobel Peace Center site, Oslo, Norway

I’ve heard a story about some of Calvin College’s vaunted professors from days of yore. As they moved on to larger, more prestigious, less parochial universities, they discovered the conversations there were not the broader, more stimulating conversations they expected. Instead, distrust was high and competition higher. The truly beneficial conversations they had, when they looked back on their careers, were with people with some common commitments. It wasn’t an echo chamber. It was a community.

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We’ve given a lot of thought at RJ to the readers’ comments that typically appear here. How can they contribute to our community conversation? Many of you have remarked that you wish commenters would use their whole and actual name. Not initials. Not a pseudonym. Agreed. But no matter how many filters and platform tweaks we try, those who do not want to use their whole or real name will find a way.

The vast majority of your comments are words of gratitude. That’s okay. No writer can hear “Thanks. Good work!” too many times. Thank you for your affirming and enthusiastic comments. They build community.

Still, how might we use the comment section to be more probing and develop a richer sense of trust and community?

Part of the reason, I think, that our comments do not go deeper is because of our social polarization, our red versus blue world. In asking a question or probing a writer, you don’t want to be perceived as “that guy,” a troll, the cranky voice from the other side.

Here’s an example: a while back there was a blog about a visit to memorial chapels built on the site of a former Nazi death camp. One of you wrote to me privately wondering, “Should it trouble us that there are Christian chapels on the ground where the vast majority of the victims were Jews who were killed by Christians? I’d ask that in the comments, but I don’t want to appear cantankerous or unappreciative of today’s blog.” 

I encouraged this person to post their comment. It wasn’t oppositional. It wasn’t a cheap shot. It was an attempt at a potentially interesting conversation. And I wish we had more of those. Not accusatory. Not winners and losers. Curious. Collegial. Neither an echo chamber nor a boxing ring. 

For whatever reason, they chose not to post it.

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    My own social media has been pared down pretty much to children and dogs and retro sports. I’m told I should consume more widely. I simply do not need the agitation of views I don’t believe or trust. I’ll read David French or David Brooks — but I can’t do Ross Douthat. I don’t watch TV news. Maybe it’s a weakness. Maybe it’s old age. I apologize. But not really. 

    So I’m amazed, grateful, and suspicious when people who don’t generally share the perspective of the Reformed Journal dip in and read us. Frankly, some are doing “oppo research.” They quote us on their sites, aghast at what they read here. This makes some RJ writers feel scrutinized-unto-vulnerable. Please, remember that. There are also a few–not that many–annoying trolls who leave inappropriate, name-calling comments that we delete. 

    Some, however, seem to be actually intrigued. Maybe they think we’re not half-bad, or at least interesting. I don’t fully understand their motives and tenacity. Maybe they simply have a greater capacity to take in differing views than I do. I can respect that. 

    The community we’ve formed here makes me glad. I appreciate your many complimentary comments. Even more, I appreciate your words about feeling a little less alone and a little more connected. I don’t want to overhype RJ’s importance, but if we play even a small part in a few of you holding on to faith, or staying in conversation with the church, I am awed. 

    We don’t have to apologize for being a community. 

    I’m also inviting you to a richer, fuller conversation–not of scorn or scoring points–but of colleagues in a lively, supportive community. Use your real and full name. Be kind and curious. Dare to probe, but not humiliate. We need conversation. We need community. Now, more than ever. 

    Please, play your part. 

    Steve Mathonnet-VanderWell

    Steve Mathonnet-VanderWell is a recently retired minister of the Reformed Church in America. He has been the convener of the Reformed Journal’s daily blog since its inception in 2011. He and his wife, Sophie, reside in Des Moines, Iowa.

    21 Comments

    • Nancy Boote says:

      Amen, Steve! We need community more than ever right now.
      I also listen to The Convocation Unscripted with Jemar Tisby, Diana Butler Bass, Robert P. Jones, and Kristen Kobes DuMez. They recently tried a webinar with a live chat. They didn’t realize what a blessing it was to those chatting with one another and were surprised by how much they also were blessed and encouraged from the voices of their community. They needed it too.
      Pastors, ministry leaders, and those on the front lines fighting against racism, Christian Nationalism, etc especially need community. It can be lonely in this fight.
      I am thankful for the RJ community. We need each other.

    • Cheryl TenBrink says:

      I am so grateful for the voices and community I find here, especially as a member of a CRC that was in the synod bullseye for three years and is now in the process of disaffiliating. Along with the political climate in our country, it’s so comforting to find others here who share views and to know I’m not alone or crazy. I can’t thank RJ and its authors enough for speaking loudly and determinedly about much of what has troubled me over the past years. Please continue to be a bright light in a dark world.

    • Wes Kiel says:

      As a retired pastor, I find the RJ blog opportunities to hear and express differing opinions. As a retired pastor I no longer have consistories, preaching, Classis, teaching opportunities to frame my response to the issues of the day. Thank you.

    • Jean Scott says:

      Thank you for the Reformed Journal! The posts have made me aware that I’m not alone, and I’m so grateful.

    • Joyce Looman Kiel says:

      I wish I could remember her name, but a while back there was a discussion here on the abortion issue. After stating her position she asked a question something like “help me understand if you feel differently on this issue.” The way it was put gave me the courage to express how I did feel differently. That is how communication happens. Hopefully, myself included, we can ask more “help me understand” questions in the comments. Thank you RJ for creating such a space for that to happen.

    • Scott VanderStoep says:

      Before I contributed my first essay to RJ, I left comments in other essays. The comments got me comfortable with the space (sort of a Triple-A tryout) and made me fell like I could create something the readers would appreciate. I’ve had a number of critical comments on my essays, but I do appreciate them, provided that they are on point. I don’t even mind if the critique is of the message AND the messenger, provided it’s civil and (again) on point. So, yes friends, post comments. And then think about submitting an essay.
      Oh, and “Thanks, great work.” 😉

    • Greg Warsen says:

      I too appreciate this forum, and the RJ has grown from an occasional check based on recommendations from my Dad to a daily visit. I can also connect to the risk of the echo chamber. In one of my roles at GVSU, I’m part of a team putting on a symposium for Gen Z voices (11/21 if this is of interest). We wanted to get an array of Gen Z perspectives on a panel, from left leaning/progressive, to centrist to conservative. Getting volunteers for the first two was relatively easy; finding someone with conservative perspectives willing to get on a stage in a higher education setting was a Herculean task. We have students who identify as conservative and some belong to the College Republicans student organization (no takers from them when invited). The fact that so many did not feel comfortable saying it in public could be a Trump phenomenon, but it also gives me pause. I grew up in a conservative community and find myself now left of center, and I find Trump terribly difficult to accept. I have to wonder though if I inadvertently contribute to an environment that has “othered” (to borrow from Monica Guzman) those with views that smell like Trump.

    • Tom Huissen says:

      Thank you Steve, for thoughtfully allaying my fear that the RJ is an echo chamber. Of course, after the full course that writers give me each day, the dessert is reading the comments posted!

    • RZ says:

      Steve, I always appreciate your perspectives, and this one in particular. Two thoughts:
      1. The RJ may be an echo chamber, but it is a far more tolerant, thoughtful, and respectful one than most. Some of us use it to process and refine rather than reinforce our own thoughts. Most of us are truth-seekers, not truth-defenders.
      2. I remain an initial user, an anonymous ghost, because it serves ( for now) my perceived circumstances and calling. We have been members of the same church and geographic community for decades. It is not because this church represents our preferences in worship style, theology, politics, scholastic rigor, or even priorities. It is not always easy to swim upstream. But we have solid friends here. Service, generosity, loyalty, compassion and commitment to biblical teaching are evident. To give an ironic and humorous example, one couple obsessively listens to anti-immigration podcasts while driving to refugee resettlement assignments several days per/ week. True, “unity” often exists specifically because of uniformity, but we feel a calling to stretch the boundaries of unity. If we can win respect while remaining constructively engaged, perhaps we can co-exist.
      So back to initials and anonymity: There are a few stalkers out there who seek out “false teachers” who threaten their black and white worldviews. Zealots are dangerous more often than not. They are not the majority, but they can do harm to a mission like ours. So I refuse to paint an obvious target on our own backs by revealing my identity. It is the same reason I have refused to file a gravemen. I believe in picking the right time, place, and audience to share a perspective. Unintended bias is a given for all of us. I do not sign my name because it is about the thought process, not my identity. I might not agree with myself after someone convinces me otherwise. My doctrinal certainties have evolved a lot over the years.
      Thanks for listening

    • Jan Zuidema says:

      In this world, at this moment, RJ posts give me the strength to go on in a place where there are those who warn me that my salvation is in danger because of my beliefs. This community of grace-filled people remind me that there is a way forward when our denomination and our politics seem to have coalesced on a path of exclusion of anyone or anything that does not fit their narrow view of God and our world. No conversation, no chance to broaden ones’ perspective is warranted; only lockdown and pull-up-the-gates. I would echo Cheryl’s you are a “bright light in this dark world”. It doesn’t seem adequate, but thank you to all!

    • Deb Genzink says:

      I too have felt much less lonely over the past three years, reading the RJ blog, until I was finally able to leave my congregation and denomination. I’m extremely grateful to the RJ. However, I love the people from my previous congregation and know that many read the RJ, so on one hand it seems unkind to use my whole name. But on the other hand, I hope friends read this, pause, and know that there is a real struggle going on.
      I have noticed that I do feel this blog to be an echo chamber when readers just say, “Thanks, I agree.” I wonder if that is the appropriate, kind thing to do, and if it is less acceptable to to add on, flesh out, and offer suggestions concerning the subject? Maybe a bit of the problem is that we can’t just hit a thumbs up button.

      • Jack Nyenhuis says:

        Hi, Deb,
        We still miss seeing you and Dave at church, but fully understand and support your decision to leave. The new people that have come into our congregation could never replace you and many other close friends who have also left. It is such a shame that a cabal was able to hijack the denomination that has been my home for nearly 90 years. Reading RJ blogs gives me the courage to persevere in our church home of 49 years. Warmest good wishes to you and Dave.

    • Phyllis Mulder Roelofs says:

      Thanks for your encouragement, Steve, I began reading the RJ regularly after my retirement as I then I had more time to read, reflect, and consider the opinions of others. I haven’t always agreed with the writings or opinions of others nor have I felt a need to. I have posted comments which other readers have acknowledged to me individually or in a social setting. I appreciate that. I included my maiden name, Mulder, on my graduate degree diploma but seldom used it because it felt professionally cumbersome. Recently I have reconsidered that because even though I have been married three fourths of my life and live apart from all family except one brother, I still carry family of origin in my head, heart, some opinions, personality traits, and even characteristic behaviors.
      
      
      

    • Nettie Van Duinen says:

      Echo chamber or preaching to the choir. When I went to a Vote Common Good gathering years ago, I realized that the choir needs to be preached at to stay encouraged and motivated.

    • Daniel Meeter says:

      I think it was good to write this. We need regular reminders of who we are and what we’re doing.

    • David Landegent says:

      As best as I can tell, people are more likely to end up in a silo when they only read and watch things they already agree with and avoid well-spoken advocates of other perspectives. Also, a person is more likely to end up in a silo or echo chamber when their own set of beliefs fit into standard labels and categories. If nearly every one of a person’s beliefs could fit the conservative or progressive label, for instance, you will more readily find a silo to join. If your beliefs are scattered across a spectrum—yet hold an internal consistency for you— it will be harder to even find a silo that fits you.

    • Ben Dykstra says:

      RJ has become a regular part of my devotions. Thank you for the many affirming and challenging posts. Although I am in the RJ ‘camp’ I have been reaching out to friends and family who don’t share my views in an attempt to understand where and why they believe as they do. I don’t expect to change minds and I will not be swayed but by simply listening (if listening is ever simple) I am opening doors to strained relationships.

    • Cheryl Scherr says:

      Steve-definitely grateful for the Reformed Journal. I like that it doesn’t name call or preach that I should believe this, that, or the other. Keep it coming.

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