Once upon a time, way back in my seminary days, I found myself weeping in my library cubicle. I was reading “In One Body Through the Cross: The Princeton Proposal for Christian Unity.” I’m not sure what prompted this reading, but being a relatively new Christian (I became Christian at sixteen), it was the first time I had heard anything about church unity, and I wept my own repentance and the larger church’s failure to “keep the unity of the Spirit” (Ephesians 4:4).
What struck me was the cost of our tens of thousands of denominations and the animosity between them. In his prayer for the church in John 17 Jesus seems to say that the church’s whole project of communicating the love of God to the world hangs on believers being one, not just in our invisible unity while visibly we all fight, but as the Father and Son are one.
What’s strange about this failure is that the oneness is not something that we create, but something that exists for us already. We don’t have to make it; we just have to keep it. The unity of the church is not predicated on our getting all our theological ducks in a row. The church is one because God is one. And since God has been so God determined to be with us, we have been united to Christ, so we are one. We are all filled with the same Spirit. We are only asked to live it out. “Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another” (John 13:34).
As such, since that moment in my library cubicle I have been convinced that it is my job as a Christ follower, to live my faith alongside all sorts of people who disagree with me about all sorts of things, even if I think their positions harmful. As my understanding of God’s grace has grown, so has my understanding of who I am united with. I think there are limits to this, of course, but I doubt my capacity to find them.
The church has fought and split over baptism, communion, marriage, prayer, the sun and stars, set lists, drums, pants, bodies, hair, hats, clubs, schools, what version of the Bible to read and how best to read it, and so much more. We have massacred, burned, drowned, excommunicated, hated, shunned, condemned, castigated, and judged each other for just about everything, and many of those things seem silly in retrospect.
That doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t argue. I think we should. Some of our fights are important. But we have to begin our arguments with the assumption that each one of us is only ever able to argue with anything theological because we are all standing on the mercy of our God who just keeps coming to us, just keeps forgiving us, just keeps calling us home.
Honestly, I would rather not be aligned with several versions of Christianity out there. I think some are wrong and harmful. But also, by the grace of God, I don’t get to pick who is in the church. That’s up to Jesus.
Robert Farrar Capon’s interpretation of the parable of the prodigal son has deepened this in me. He notes that the only person who is outside the party (representative of the Kingdom of God) at the end of the story is the older brother, and it is not because he is not invited. He is outside the party because he doesn’t like the other people who are inside. If that doesn’t sharpen a call to love, I don’t know what does. I do not want to find that I exclude myself from the final feast because I can’t stomach some of my siblings who sit at Jesus’ table.
Last week, I found myself weeping as if I were back in that cubicle. I was taking communion at a classis meeting. The church that my husband and I serve is a member of Classis Grand Rapids East (GREast) in the Christian Reformed Church (CRC). Many in our denomination think that GREast has gone off the deep end rejecting the Bible and accommodating to culture. We have not. We are a mix of churches — some who affirm full participation for our LGBTQ+ members in the church, and some who do not — but we are committed to doing life together anyway. There is some mutual understanding between us and some tension, but I think we believe enough in our own depravity and enough in the grace of God to think that, despite that, we can still be together under the cross.
What I think GREast understands is that churches like mine (on the affirming side) aren’t just succumbing to the “gay agenda” (whatever that means). What happened for us is that that we started to see the harm that we were causing by excluding certain people from full participation in the life of church. These were people who clearly bore the fruit of that one Spirit which we all share.
Many of us revisited the Scriptures, trying to understand how to hold our the CRC’s “pastoral guidance” alongside the work of God that we were witnessing. We began to see that the biblical argument against gay marriage, which we had simply accepted, was much weaker than we thought, and we could also make an argument from the text for full inclusion. So we felt convicted that we could no longer exclude people from the table without cause (and at the time we were within church order).
If you want some strong Christians in the church, take a look at the LGBTQ+ folks who keep coming. They are there entirely because Jesus keeps calling them back. Why else would they stay? Other church leaders in GREast may not agree, but I think they see that it isn’t capitulation.
As we, this mixed group of pastors, elders, and deacons, took communion we sang, “eat and remember the wounds that heal, the death that brings us life, paid the price to make us one” and I wept. Because Jesus did everything to pay the price to make us one, and our classis receiving the body and blood together is a clear example that it is possible to be together, but it seems that by hook or by crook some in our denomination would like to oust us. I think that most of them still think we are Christians, but removing us from the denomination will mean that they no longer have to be associated with us. That won’t stop us from being part of the body of Christ. We will still be one, even if we don’t act like it.
I can already hear the counterarguments, coming from every direction, and I have answers for some of them, and not for others (like, for example, how do we live together without harming people on the margins? That is also very important to me, and I have no idea of an answer). I don’t think this year’s synod is going to go well for my congregation or my classis. But the unity of the church is not a thing that we can opt out of. It exists because God exists. There are so many different kinds of people in the church because of the unending grace of our one God. And I am praying with Jesus that we will learn to act like that is true.
Thank you for this article!
From the heart to the heart.
Thank you, Jen. I am so blessed by the thought that our oneness in Christ exists whether we opt in or not. I am teared up as well, over the beauty of that thought and over the polarization and small mindedness in our denominational family.
Thank you for this calm, logical argument for including all who confess Jesus as Lord in the family/church of God. The reminder that the older brother in the Prodigal Son story chooses not to attend the party is so very convincing.
Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your heart that beats with the Lord’s heart reminding us all that He desires for His church to be one. May the Lord be with the CRC and with your Classis in these weeks ahead. Lord, have mercy on all of us!
“… we are all standing on the mercy of our God who just keeps coming to us, just keeps forgiving us, just keeps calling us home.” Yes, yes, yes!
Thank you, Jen, for expressing so well much of what goes through my mind and my heart on a regular basis these days. And thanks for your passion for Christ and his gospel.
Thank you, Jen, for sharing this deep truth about God’s desires for us; oneness. As my denomination and congregation struggles at this very moment, I am bring your article to my Act Justly group as well as the Inclusion Statement committee I serve on with 5 others. I am praying many hearts are opened with the help of your words.
Amen, Jen! And thank you for this reminder.
” I do not want to find that I exclude myself from the final feast because I can’t stomach some of my siblings who sit at Jesus’ table.” Yes. Yes. Yes. Thank you, Jen.
Thank you.
Thank you Jen!
Amen!! So well said!
There are plenty of arguments for remaining together in my opinion, but this is fundamental. The pain and sin come when we choose not to align ourselves with what is already true–unity in God. Thank you for saying this so well, and living it.
Thank you, Jen.
AMEN!
You reminded us of the shameful history of the Church, and it is deeply painful.
And to face yet another looming split, a perpetuation of turning a deaf ear to the Lord’s call for love and unity is a cause for weeping indeed.
Thank you, Jen.
Wonderful and wise,
The eye cannot say to the foot, “I have no need for you.” Or something like that. When we voted to become affirming in our congregation, we had a couple families stay even though they were profoundly conservative. I loved them before we voted, and I think I love them even more today, and I’m proud of our congregation for how we stick together, at least to this point. It is possible, but it is hard.
Thanks, Jen.
Oh Jen. Thank you for this. I so hope we are surprised by Synod!
A profound read at the end of my day. Thank you.
Your description of Classis GR East is a model for the denomination. We will never all agree on multiple issues but that does not mean we should exclude those with whom we disagree. Thanks for your wise words.
I am thankful to be a part of a CRC church that embraces full inclusion. Will we remain a part of the denomination? That remains to be seen
Thank you for giving voice to what I often have a hard time expressing. Thank you,
Thank you so much for this piece- it is clearly from the heart. It was a balm amidst our heartbreaking experiences in our own Classis related to our local congregation voting to become fully affirming. The Church’s whole project of communicating the love of God is suffering so very much.
Paul call all to be transformed and not to conform to things of the world and the things of the World are the things like lgbtq as Roman’s1:26-27 Jude1:7 1timothy 1:9-10 and this is also considered an abomination in the Old Testament which yes we are supposed to love the sinner no matter what they are doing we ain’t supposed to condone anything that Goes against God but the only reason why these people keep coming and anyone living in a sinful state is because they are being encouraged to keep going on and doing so they aren’t being encouraged to do turn away and do otherwise and that’s what Jesus would do is encourage them to repent from such away of living and to live holy and godly lifestyle I don’t say any of this to bash anyone but to encourage and out of a place of love and good will please if you are living that then you are sinner and you need accept Jesus Christ and believe in what he did on that cross and turn from your sins and live a holy and godly lifestyle for he who knows to do Good and does it not to him it is a sin.